View Full Version : If you could go back in a time-machine and do Secondary School again,
Would you do it (or want to) do it differently - knowing what you do when you get older. If so, how in what way? Itwould be great to recieve any replies - thanks :)
Believe it or not i would do secondary school again.
Reason being i had a terible school life particularly secondary being bullied physically and mentally.
I would stand up for myself more for starters.
i suffer depression because of what i went through although i have no anger when i see the ones these days that did it.
I wish id tried to enjoy school more.
Believe it or not i would do secondary school again.
Reason being i had a terible school life particularly secondary being bullied physically and mentally.
I would stand up for myself more for starters.
i suffer depression because of what i went through although i have no anger when i see the ones these days that did it.
I wish id tried to enjoy school more.
I am sorry to hear about your troubles Darren mate. As an old School-friend said to me, he haqs done well for himself and i'm sure you have too. Credit to you Darren, you seem a vert very decent guy. Well put it this way, you have always been well friendly to me on here anmd made me really welcome as soon as I joined here. I will never forget how you were so nice to me.
I think School Kids have it way more easy Today, though there are more issues for them to deal with. I'd not like the issues of Today, but how they appear to sail through "waterd down GCSE's" to "A-Levels" amazes me and you can qualify for University or a Btec Equal at college on any basis after School now! This is (I think) what i'd like to be different for me if I could go back in time as it where!!
FLYING SAUCER
01-02-2012, 01:05
Sorry about that Darren, the bullies tried to have a go at me too, and thinking back, they were insecure, inadequate people that ganged together and picked on folk that made them feel inferior?
O levels were O levels when I left back in 1981, some our teachers were truly horrid, and I wish I had skived off more!.....
cheers F.S.
Yes another thing id do is work harder study more pay attention in class.
I'd try and want to try to want to fit in more too, i'd reckon Darren. I would want to be where the "in-crowd" is etc I feel.
Another thing i wish id done was to be more talkative and far less shy.
i feel that could have been part of the reason i was picked on.
Also if i had put my head down and worked harder i could have got of the bad class and away from the bnad ones i was in with from secondary school onwards.
I also bottled things up and i should have told the teachers.
Another thing i wish id done was to be more talkative and far less shy.
i feel that could have been part of the reason i was picked on.
Also if i had put my head down and worked harder i could have got of the bad class and away from the bnad ones i was in with from secondary school onwards.
I also bottled things up and i should have told the teachers.
I think i'd like/liked to of fit in with the "tougher crowd " too, they seem to look out for one and another at School.
Retrogames
12-02-2012, 16:29
My year 5 teacher got me thinking, when we joined his class he asked us to tell him our hobbies and said "by the way, I do not consider listening to music, watching television, or buying records a hobby". I wish I could have my years up to 14/15 back to build up some hobbies. This comment actually guides my parenting. With my lad, who is at primary school, I work hard to give him experiences rather than just plonk him in front of the Telly. We build things, go exploring, the mrs takes him for nature walks, we moved house to be a couple of mins walk from the beach so we can go down there on the night, and he does karate and dance lessons and knows that if he wants music lessons etc we will support his interests. He's got more skills that I had at 25! In the past six months he's hung a new door, put up a mirror, made a cupboard for his sister, learnt to swim, learnt to ride a bike, coded a website, made a video, made a few funny little songs on the pc and loads more, pretty much all from his own ideas.
havasack
19-02-2012, 01:37
I'd be expelled. Knowing what I now know and having the bottle to do it they really couldn't allow me to stay.
Trickyvee
19-02-2012, 14:52
I actually wish I had been less studious. I didn't exactly spend my whole time studying but I was overly concerned with being good and doing the right thing. I would never have dreamed of wagging a few lessons or not trying my best. Perhaps I am in a bitter place after a couple of years of losing jobs through redundancy and feeling very stressed out in others, but if I had my time again I wouldn't work as hard because at the moment it doesn't really feel like it was worth it, the trouble I'm having finding work.
Sorry for the downer but it's not been a great day :(
Retrogames
19-02-2012, 15:15
/\ Feel for you mate. It isn't easy nowadays is it, I had to sort my life by packing in work completely before it did my head in. I only work a couple of days a week now and don't spend much, we did go to Florida last year but the wife and kids understand that those yearly big holidays will now be a big event once every three or four years with the average holiday being a caravan in France (which tbh the kids love just as much!)
I'm making up for those years of working hard at school (although I did combine A Levels with four jobs and going out til 2am four nights a week) by taking time to go out mountain biking when the kids are at school, and buying random retro nonsense at 50p a time from the booter. As long as there's food, petrol money, bill money, and the rest, why do I need all of the possessions that the 2000s told us we needed to amass?
Good luck with job hunting, and while you wait for your next position I hope you get your head around enjoying the time off.
This could well be me too, but may-be suspensions more! Though if I knew how fun School could be (as happens in your mind years later), i'd sure make it more "fun", no questions asked!!
I actually wish I had been less studious. I didn't exactly spend my whole time studying but I was overly concerned with being good and doing the right thing. I would never have dreamed of wagging a few lessons or not trying my best. Perhaps I am in a bitter place after a couple of years of losing jobs through redundancy and feeling very stressed out in others, but if I had my time again I wouldn't work as hard because at the moment it doesn't really feel like it was worth it, the trouble I'm having finding work.
Sorry for the downer but it's not been a great day :(
sorry to hear that mate.
but i do wish id tried harder in school knowing what i went through.
u should have put my gead down and studied hard wpuld have got away from those people i did not like.
would have got in with better people of id worled harder.
Marine Boy
20-02-2012, 00:36
It's a really interesting thread. I find myself thinking.............. if I was at school with the mind I have now as an adult. That would be incredible!
It's a really interesting thread. I find myself thinking.............. if I was at school with the mind I have now as an adult. That would be incredible!
indeed mate hind sight a great thing.
another thing id not be so shy if i could go back.
i was far to much into my shell which at secondary school i feel now was a bad thing.
It's a really interesting thread. I find myself thinking.............. if I was at school with the mind I have now as an adult. That would be incredible!
This is a great way of describing what you have said I think Marine Boy! I mean it's just them few years like from 13 onwards that thing's change, so much when your 18/19/20. I can well recall thinking even at 18/19 .... if only I could do say Year 10 and 11 again it'd be easy as, though of course this could not be so or even seen ... just them few few years before.
For me you need to be a "miracle guy/gal" for this, like a chap I met in the late 90sat College who was sort of a friend, he proclaimed himself to be a "Computer Whizz-kid", just give me a bell whenever and i'll help you. He must've learned all this at School (which i'd sure love to do of and would if I was back there), again. Though he was very much a Walter Mitty Typed Fantasist I take my hat off to him with the knowledge he obviously taught himself or aquired!
ayrshireman
20-02-2012, 21:48
Believe it or not i would do secondary school again.
Reason being i had a terible school life particularly secondary being bullied physically and mentally.
I would stand up for myself more for starters.
i suffer depression because of what i went through although i have no anger when i see the ones these days that did it.
I wish id tried to enjoy school more.
How long ago was this?.
How long ago was this?.
from eighy five till ninety two or so.
through secondary school and and my technical college.
I finished school twelve years ago and I still think about it quite a bit. I'm quite realistic in that I realise that not every day was fantastic but on the whole I loved secondary school. I have loads of regrets though and stupid or not, I still think 'what if?' sometimes. This week I've found myself in a proper nostalgic mood and found myself thinking back to my secondary school days. It was nice to come back to this forum after a little break and find this great thread, it was nice to see that there are other people who seem to feel and think some of the things I do.
another thing id not be so shy if i could go back.
i was far to much into my shell which at secondary school i feel now was a bad thing.
This pretty much sums up where I think I went wrong. I was always painfully shy and it really held me back. Near the end of school I tried to expand my social circle more by trying to get into some of the other groups of kids but it was more or less too late. I don't know how or if it would have changed my life to this day but I still think about it.
I think a lot of it Palazzo even is connected to the thing's that are about School but not, like on a Morning knowing you had to be ready etc on time and then like Saturday TV Shows like Going Live etc reminde me of how (hypotheticaly) thing's could be if ever if a Time Machine was possible, though of course it can not be unless may-be in the Year 9000, but so much gives me these type of scenario's that went with School.
80sChav
yeah same here i still think back and wish id not been shy.
i often think how would my life at secondary have been different.
maybe it would have been different then maybe not but id love the chance to try again.
aint hindsight a great thing.
I finished school twelve years ago and I still think about it quite a bit. I'm quite realistic in that I realise that not every day was fantastic but on the whole I loved secondary school. I have loads of regrets though and stupid or not, I still think 'what if?' sometimes. This week I've found myself in a proper nostalgic mood and found myself thinking back to my secondary school days. It was nice to come back to this forum after a little break and find this great thread, it was nice to see that there are other people who seem to feel and think some of the things I do.
This pretty much sums up where I think I went wrong. I was always painfully shy and it really held me back. Near the end of school I tried to expand my social circle more by trying to get into some of the other groups of kids but it was more or less too late. I don't know how or if it would have changed my life to this day but I still think about it.
Probably like a lot of other people and the earlier posters I was bullied at school and I've often wanted to go back and beat the **** out of the bullies.
But if I find a way to do that in the future, and I'm still remembering being bullied now, it's probably because I caused them to turn out to be bullies by going back and giving them a kicking.
sorry to hear of that mate.
like you i was bullied as well which is one reason id go back but also to work harder study harder by doing that i could have got out of that bad class i was in.
Hence no bullying.
Might have got in with nicer people.
Probably like a lot of other people and the earlier posters I was bullied at school and I've often wanted to go back and beat the **** out of the bullies.
But if I find a way to do that in the future, and I'm still remembering being bullied now, it's probably because I caused them to turn out to be bullies by going back and giving them a kicking.
I guess same as both you Darren and Catflap, I was bullied too but as much it'll never happen I guess I would go back to be like the other's appeared to be and take your chajces to have a good time etc while it's there because it's nt until you realise year's later it is "work, bill's, work" or similar and it has taken way past my 20s to realise this. It is just a shame when you begin your Education and Life this kind of thing is not truly known (though it is to a degree but not totaly for everybody as people see it so many differing way's).
Though just after School I met a guy I knew - he could "talk the talk about Computers", but knew he'd be a sucsessfull buisnessman and not that his prefferd career worked out but sure as night follows day he was doing great last time I met him which proves what I had always thought about School for a long time - if you "set your stall out", like this you'll hopefuly do ok in life.
80sChav
I guess same as both you Darren and Catflap, I was bullied too but as much it'll never happen I guess I would go back to be like the other's appeared to be and take your chajces to have a good time etc while it's there because it's nt until you realise year's later it is "work, bill's, work" or similar and it has taken way past my 20s to realise this. It is just a shame when you begin your Education and Life this kind of thing is not truly known (though it is to a degree but not totaly for everybody as people see it so many differing way's).
Though just after School I met a guy I knew - he could "talk the talk about Computers", but knew he'd be a sucsessfull buisnessman and not that his prefferd career worked out but sure as night follows day he was doing great last time I met him which proves what I had always thought about School for a long time - if you "set your stall out", like this you'll hopefuly do ok in life.
80sChav
Quite right.
And anyway, I could no more play it tough now then I could then! - best to just be yourself and not change in response to others.
themilkman
30-03-2013, 19:42
Quite right.
And anyway, I could no more play it tough now then I could then! - best to just be yourself and not change in response to others.
I never got bullied myself, some boys tried it once but I got one of them up against a wall and told the others they were quite welcome to try it on if they wanted (I was bricking it tbh), and I got left alone.........I'd like to go back and maybe do a bit more for the ones who were actually being bullied though.
Yoiu raise a good point Cat Flap about being yourself, but at my old school/s it was be bullied or not which invarably lead to survive or not, which is a major reason for if scenarios as such could ever happen - but not in my lifetime), that i'd want it differently. I would just want to "fit in" with the other's I think - though of course now as I have got older i've started to dislike Pigeon Holing of people more than ever.
80sChav
Avahi1057
31-03-2013, 14:36
Nope. In fact I'm amazed at how many people seem to have nostalgia for secondary. I have fond memories of primary (genuinely the best days of my life to date) but secondary I'm just glad it's over. Maybe it depended on your school but mine felt like being in a prison. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if I learnt that some of my classmates actually had been in prison since.
battyrat
31-03-2013, 14:53
If I could go back and change something it would simply be the school itself.I left there bitter and still feel very bitter towards not only the school but many of the teachers that I knew there.I still blame them and the school for anxiety related problems which continued years after I left....and still flare up from time to time.The school was supposed to offer the student a safe enviroment in which to learn.I found the teachers as bad as the bullies themselves and even in one case a teacher encouraged it.My sister was taken out of the same school years later for the same reason and ended up being taught at home.If the place burn't to the ground today it would still be an asset to the town and the kids that still go there.
The only thing I would change if I could would be the school I went to.
i agree with battyrat on the fact it was the school i disliked.
i could have went to a different secondary school which was more strict id have had more chance to study and not get bullied.
a big regert and i wish i could go back in time.
i agree with battyrat on the fact it was the school i disliked.
i could have went to a different secondary school which was more strict id have had more chance to study and not get bullied.
a big regert and i wish i could go back in time.
I am sorry you had a bad time at school, Darren. I always wanted after i'd left 6th Form at 16 to go back to School (not the one i was at) as they pushed me out I felt when I could easily of done A Levels, but I was never offered the option to. I really wanted to go to a different School after that had other 6th Form options and sure would of they had existed which hypotheticaly i'd do if it was possible, though it's not), but as well in those day's you could not cross boundries like say Leeds to Bradford or Birmingham to Coventry etc, which was similar for Colleges until; the latter 90s I recall too.
Not long since too I read on my School Facebook that they had a Prom and allsorts and how they had a great time in both 6th Form Year's while I was at this most horrid College i'd been pushed into trying for the best part of the same time. The thing's the other's from my Year learned sounded excellent which included thing's i'd tried like running a busines, though it was not meant to be I guess, but i'd sure do all this agaain and more if i'd known what I knew etc or had a 2nd chance, through a Time Machine etc Lol.
80sChav
How many times did your parents say.....Schooldays are the best days of your life.....then they went on to tell you how sadistic the teachers were in their day. Nostalgia is a funny thing.....time and years seem to sugar coat a lot of pain and make it into what we lovingly call "experience". Maybe its the pleasant thought that, Thank God I don't have to go through all that again!
yes very true mate.
i just wish icould go back and not be so shy and on my own all the time.
being shy i felt did me no favours and this partially led to me being bullied.
although now i hold no grudges id talk to them if i met them.
id have stood up for myself more complained to the teachers more if i could go back.
my memories of these incidents are so very clear.
Yoiu raise a good point Cat Flap about being yourself, but at my old school/s it was be bullied or not which invarably lead to survive or not, which is a major reason for if scenarios as such could ever happen - but not in my lifetime), that i'd want it differently. I would just want to "fit in" with the other's I think - though of course now as I have got older i've started to dislike Pigeon Holing of people more than ever.
80sChav
I wish I had had more knowledge about School - more so Secondary as when I went at 11 I had this impression of "it was mapped out", but far from it - if i'd known this (though this is where being a kid is that your innocent) i'd of sure looked at it in this way, though that is the best thing about being a kid in you know nothing
If I did have such a chance, i'd defenitley not like the Teachers say the thing's they can say "about education being the be all and end all" as education can be achieved in so many other way's than the original way I feel, but again this is not known always as a kid, unless you have that inside you to sewt your stall as a great entraopenour etc.
In another way too i'd not be botherd too about others at School, knowing that anyone can be horrible in life, let alone School.
80sChav
ayrshireman
06-04-2013, 17:23
....i'd chat up every last girl there, law of averages you know.
Pussywillow
29-04-2013, 20:55
There is two things I would change. One incident in the school playground, that I've regretted ever since.
The other....I'd put a match to the damn place.
id have done the same mate.
asked enough times id have been near sure to have got lucky.
....i'd chat up every last girl there, law of averages you know.
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