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    Are there anyone on here who are still in touch with friends (or even those were not quite friends) from their school days, possibly as a result of Facebook or Friends Reunited? I suppose that the technology of the internet and especially social media makes it easier than ever before in that respect, but even then, local newspapers still made it easy to get the message across. In the pre-internet days, it was very easy to lose touch, and one almost feels as if one would never hear from them again, unless it was due to negative connections.

    I had just come back this evening from my 40th birthday visit to Berkshire, and dialed 1471 on my landline and found a mobile number that I didn't recognise. I pressed 3 and a familiar name from the past was mentioned in the answer machine message. He rang me back around 20 minutes later and we had a lovely 40 minute nostalgic conversation about our school days - we were in the same class for three of the Primary years, and to say that I didn't have much of a good time at school, what with me being a target for bullying and peer pressure, but he was definitely one of the good guys in my class - he said that had even posted me a birthday present inside a Jiffy Bag although I haven't opened it at the moment of writing this. He has done well, and went to university and so on which considering the school we both went to seemed rather implausible in hindsight considering how rough the area was. I actually sent a Christmas card to his old place where he moved away from in 1998 and that more or less triggered things off - he wrote back at the start of this year, and I sent him a birthday card for his 40th earlier on this year as well. It had been 30 years since we were in the same class together.

    We were namedropping former pupils and teachers as if there were no tomorrow and having a good natter into the bargain of things such school trips and all that, and it was like a virtual school reunion over the telephone - it was so fitting that he rang me as I have reached my 40th birthday - the telephone call was just like a birthday present in itself. He said that if we wanted to stay in touch meet up, it was fine by him.

    So, are there other people on here who are still in touch with people they went to school with, or does anyone actually think that keeping in touch with someone associated with the past might be a dangerous thing (such as the unearthing of a few skeletons in the cupboard that time should have forgotten), and that one's school days are water under the bridge and therefore we should let bygones be bygones? I have often thought of that as being a bit risky looking back as we should move forwards in life, but they do say that time is a great healer.
    I am now in my 40s (just in case anyone asks).

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    I went to a boarding school. Anyone that has been to one knows they are strict and draconian. Even more so when it is run by the Masons. Our only freedom was one hour of television per nite and a movie very fortnite. I too was bullied and I also bullied and do not recall making any what one would call lifelong friends. Anyway, cutting a long story short, I left after a decade and finished my schooling in civie street. Some 20 years after leaving a school reunion was arranged. I was reluctant to attend but nevertheless went. It was so much better than I anticipated and I discovered I remembered more people than I envisaged I would. The upshot was I had a ball and did not regret for a moment my decision to attend. For some reason I never kept in touch with anyone from the reunion. After all reunions are precisely that.. reunions.

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    George would like you contribution on the TRIP DOWN MEMORY LANE thread in Misc Memories.

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    I thought that I wouldn't go into too much detail on a forum like this as obviously things were a bit too personal - mind you, since I have been a member on here I have contributed to various threads where I have mentioned various things from my school days such as school trips. Sadly, it is always a truism that the bad things that happen back then always seem to be a lot more memorable than the good things, and I was bullied by those who I would rather forget - it's a pity that we cannot turn that around so easily and remember positive things from over 30 years ago.
    I am now in my 40s (just in case anyone asks).

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    I have personally tried not to keep in contact with old school friends. In fact I don't really care what happened to most of them. For very Good reasons. Time does not heal old wounds, it can often make things more bitter.
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    I was recently put in touch with an old pal from 43 years ago thanks to my wife who enjoys facebook (i dont) turns out he has been in the army since leaving school and is living in Germany. He (Jimmy) in turn put me in touch with three more old schoolmates who still live in my area and we all get together from time to time perhaps two or three times a year and we enjoy talking about how our lives have panned out and ofcourse about our schooldays and the mischief we would get up to.
    I often thought about them but never imagined ever meeting them again

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    Quote Originally Posted by battyrat View Post
    I have personally tried not to keep in contact with old school friends. In fact I don't really care what happened to most of them. For very Good reasons. Time does not heal old wounds, it can often make things more bitter.
    I don't blame you to be honest - the ones who I wouldn't want to see again would outnumber those who I would want to see. I often have this Facebook phobia as a result - how would they perceive someone like myself after all these years?
    I am now in my 40s (just in case anyone asks).

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    I am in e-mail contact with two friends from school
    Time flies like the wind, fruit flies like bananas - go figure!

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    This is a great thread you have made here George mate - it takes guts to put this into words I feel - so fair play/fair does to you here. I have eventually gottan around to posting in this thread - not as I was unsure about whatIi am writing etc, or that I didnt want to re-visit past haunts just as other things prevented me to be fair Id say


    I dont know what - to be fair I'd think about a re-uino or meeting old friends, though in 2005 or 2006 I met up with my childhood best friend for only the 2nd or 3rd or so time since leaving the Secondary school i attened adter my Parents broke up. I was always aware of what he was doing in life mind and we sure as "night follows day" brothers, between the ages of 5 and 12 and lived over the road from each other and virtualy in each others pockets an huses - but it dwindled a-part by Year 8s - last few weks really to be fair as such friendships do of occasions!

    I had another mutal friend (a girl, well 2 but) one a lot lesser so who both became good friends and stuck up for me v the bully's and I kept in regular contact with the first one for many a-moon until what .... 5 years back and even so her walking her Dog in a Local Park about 2 months back after she moved to a new house nearer my end of town, but now she her own Career and is a married lady of 11 years now, which by sheer re-collection as things go was the Day of the Glasgow Airport Terror/Ram-raid attack.Though her husband is a mutual(ish) family connection through relatives and family too, it seems right but not right to be in their company/socialize etc I feel - even though hand on heart he knows i'd never chat her up/try it on etc

    Par these 2 inastances I have tried other "meetings/friendships" with ex School pals through friends re-united and facebook but to not much avail - even my old 2/3 best friends from my 2nd Secondary which was way, way better than my first in how we was taught not to bully others/befriend them - ignored me on FB and I could see them waiting to type but never did One guy as nice as he was and was a semi-friend at school, but was better on FB only talked about his Window Repair buisness and his love of old Ford Escorts and a lot of bragging over "Ttamlined Hair" nearly getting him excluded which was never so - then he just beamoaned my Original Home Town saying he had many Windows to repair - making out it was the only place that attracted yobbos for the need to repair Windows - so as nice as he was in trying to organise potiental re-unions , he was too far in love with himself I felt and now in hindsight he is no better than he was at school!

    Re re-unions though I dunno if I'd go (oar mny 2nd school) and the first one at the least I would only go if I had cart-blanche in my head and the nerve to say to most "look here you loosers, you bulloied me messed about" etc (as I know some got the worst of the jobs after leaving that with all respect to me not being snobbish) are jobs the teachers said they'd get or could only hold down due to being such "roughians". Some of them may even be in Prison the first school was that bad. As I say I am no snob but like every generation of members on here - I saw the dark side too as Chrissy Hythe sang and I don't think I am better but just would want to say look here "youdid this to me and that/was my friend t half 9 and hated me by 9.36) and threatened to put ^*snic in a drink when you said I could share it/have a sup, but i have amounted to more than you ever thought as bullying/meancing children. Saying that means a lot I think in such respects said correctly

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    My brother is still friends with the friends he had at school, whereas I pretty much didn't see mine after I left. I didn't really have a "set" group of friends like he did, I just hung out with different people depending on what I was into at the time.

    I was a member of Friends Reunited (R.I.P) where I could see what people had got up to and the reunions they'd attended but never really contacted anyone other than the odd message. I've had a few people from back then contact me via facebook as I joined a local group for the town where I used to live but again, just a few messages and i'm not going to catch up with any of them when i'm back in the UK.

    The last time I saw anyone from my old school was at my brother's wedding back in the UK a few years ago, one of his mates had married a girl in my year (not class) who I kind of knew from a few lessons but didn't hang out with or talk to much. Turns out she had a crush on me at school which i never knew about till then, was slightly awkward tbh.
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