School Reunions

[GreenKnight]

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I went to one from my old secondary school. I was in two minds for quite a while about it as I wasn't great friends with those who said they were going. I also hadn't seen most of them in over thirty years so I knew there would be some embarrassing moments when I had to ask "Who are you?".

In the end it was actually a real laugh. Most people had changed a lot but all had mellowed into far more pleasant versions of their former selves. Even the thuggy types were now gentle family men with teenage kids and mortgages. I made and remade a lot of friends that evening and now a few of us meet regularly for a laugh and a trip down memory lane. There is something very comforting about chatting with people who share your own memories of childhood.

[darren]

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I went to one from my old secondary school. I was in two minds for quite a while about it as I wasn't great friends with those who said they were going. I also hadn't seen most of them in over thirty years so I knew there would be some embarrassing moments when I had to ask "Who are you?".

In the end it was actually a real laugh. Most people had changed a lot but all had mellowed into far more pleasant versions of their former selves. Even the thuggy types were now gentle family men with teenage kids and mortgages. I made and remade a lot of friends that evening and now a few of us meet regularly for a laugh and a trip down memory lane. There is something very comforting about chatting with people who share your own memories of childhood.

that is good to hear mate.
people do change and mellow over 3 decades.
and it shows that going to reunions can work.

[80sChav]

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it goes to show being smart does not guarantee a real good job.
y can be smart but not a nixe person.

for me its more important to be a nice person and not that smart than be real smart and not a nice person.

although a few at school where real bad to me.
physically abusive i mean.
but id show up to show im o longer afraid of them.

Good on you Darren mate. It is exactly what (i'd hope if I was in such a situation).

[sf1378]

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Never have been to one. Never will go. I had an awful time at school and will never forgive the sheep who followed the heards and went along with the **** taking concerning me. I'm not afraid to admit I HATE them to this day. Always will - and that included the pompous teachers who turned a blind eye to my being bullied. I don't see why someone who was given a hard time at school should forgive and forget if they turn up to one of these things and see how the bully has become 'mellow' or 'nice' or 'feels bad' about having bullied you on and off...To tell the truth, that scene at the end of Carrie? Thats what I wish would happen to them all. It was extremely hurtful and I won't want to meet any of them for fear of punching their lights out.

[HG]

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The reunion was last Saturday and I didn't go. Ironically while out last Saturday night I bumped into an old school friend I hadn't seen for 15 years so I had a reunion anyway by default

[darren]

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Good on you Darren mate. It is exactly what (i'd hope if I was in such a situation).

thanks mate.

and anyway im sure a lot of them have changed and are not bullies anymore.
people change over time.

going to a reunion at my my local primary school in august i think it is.

[Agnetha352]

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I was invited to one in 1991 but declined. All we have in common is our Alma Mater. Although I wasn't bullied or anything like that, I have no desire to associate with my erstwhile schoolmates.

[ncpcov]

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There was talk of one a few years ago - but I wouldn't go there because I thought pretty much 90% of the people in my year were t*****s (sure they weren't big fans of mine either) but there is a reason why I am not still in touch with anyone from school. I have had the pleasure of meeting a few people I went to school with over the years, and even the 10 minutes I spent in their company in a pub somewhere was too much for me so no way would I want to spend a whole evening. Needless to say I didn't really enjoy school - didn't hate it but dont have massive fond memories of it at all...
Same with College after school (instead of 6th form)
It wasn't until I got to go away to college that I made really good friends that I am still in touch with to this day.

[darren]

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There was talk of one a few years ago - but I wouldn't go there because I thought pretty much 90% of the people in my year were t*****s (sure they weren't big fans of mine either) but there is a reason why I am not still in touch with anyone from school. I have had the pleasure of meeting a few people I went to school with over the years, and even the 10 minutes I spent in their company in a pub somewhere was too much for me so no way would I want to spend a whole evening. Needless to say I didn't really enjoy school - didn't hate it but dont have massive fond memories of it at all...
Same with College after school (instead of 6th form)
It wasn't until I got to go away to college that I made really good friends that I am still in touch with to this day.

Iguess the reason you are not in touch with them is perhaps they where not so nice to you.
But its possible they might hve changed.

As people get older they change into decent people of course not all do but must would id think.

Idid not like school got yrs of physical abuse but im willing to put that behind me and meet some of them when my reunion comes up.

[ncpcov]

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Iguess the reason you are not in touch with them is perhaps they where not so nice to you.
But its possible they might hve changed.

As people get older they change into decent people of course not all do but must would id think.

Idid not like school got yrs of physical abuse but im willing to put that behind me and meet some of them when my reunion comes up.

To a degree - I got bullied a bit at primary school and a lot in the 1st year of secondary. Put that behind me after I gave some kid a pasting when my temper finally snapped and no one said anything to me again.
But overall I just didn't like the people there. Had a few close friends that I went through college with, and when I saw him a few years ago our lives had gone down such different paths we had nothing to talk about but memories of school...and to be honest that is all they are - memories.
I try and look forward in my life rather than back..especially with people I never really liked...

[sixtyten]

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Been to several, normally good for a laugh
Stopped attending them now I'm old and grey, but ironically, my girlfriend is the girl I fancied at school 31 years ago

[darren]

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Been to several, normally good for a laugh
Stopped attending them now I'm old and grey, but ironically, my girlfriend is the girl I fancied at school 31 years ago

Glad you enjoyed them mate.
old and grey at 35 surely not.

you got your dream girl good for you.

[sixtyten]

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Deffo got my dream girl, but sadly, I'm now 45, she's 44

Still feel like teens though

[darren]

Deffo got my dream girl, but sadly, I'm now 45, she's 44

Still feel like teens though

you say these reunions where good fun but did you keep in contact with any of them are you know friends with them.

Very happy for you you got the girl you wanted mate.
And she was your first and only GF.



still feel like a teen do you,i still act and watch things you did a a teen.

Well i do i still watch dangermouse he man etc.

[80sChav]

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Had a few close friends that I went through college with, and when I saw him a few years ago our lives had gone down such different paths we had nothing to talk about but memories of school...

Yeah I had similar experenice in 2005 when I finaly met up with an old best mate i'd lost touch with and had only seen once 10 years previously! Though we did'nt even talk about School much either sadly!